Oh wow, someone else on here that had this happen to them
Anyways, best of luck Logicgate!
Yeah, I set my icon to what it is because (aside from finding it to be a good icon) it is how I personally feel myself, internally. About nearly everything. But I remembered how nervous I was to paint my nails, and how I didn't want to, but when I did, I loved it, and now I actually feel uncomfortable not having them painted. So I figured despite still being scared to do this, I figured it would be best for what my interests are after. I see it like getting a shot. You don't want to get the shot from the doctor, when he has the needle in his hand you want to go, and when it's done, everything finishes up quickly and you realize it wasn't so bad. So I'm experimenting a bit and pushing myself really hard, but that's what I feel is going to happen to me.Momar wrote: ↑Mon Mar 10, 2014 2:21 pmYour avatar pretty much describes my mood whenever I consider presenting.
I had a meeting with the LGBT focal for the company this morning. Pretty much, they are going to follow my lead. The next step where they need to get involved is when my transition becomes visibly evident (whether or not I'm presenting female at work). Then, she will have a meeting with my manager and my local HR rep, and outfit them with a presentation that they'll then present to my entire team.
I know I'm going to need to be out to my team if I want to transition, but the thought of having everyone in a room discussing my transition is absolutely terrifying. I don't need to be there for it if I don't want to be (and I don't), but that prospect alone has me wanting to run back into the same closet I've been rationalizing my way into for over a decade.
This is pretty much exactly how things went when I came out at work, only my LGBT focal was quite a bit less prepared. (They let me give the presentation a once-over and had to fix a few things). I know I'm not the first person to transition on the job where I work, but in the past they've been bad at capturing the knowledge and experience from that. We've been working on fixing that.Momar wrote: ↑Mon Mar 10, 2014 2:21 pmYour avatar pretty much describes my mood whenever I consider presenting.
I had a meeting with the LGBT focal for the company this morning. Pretty much, they are going to follow my lead. The next step where they need to get involved is when my transition becomes visibly evident (whether or not I'm presenting female at work). Then, she will have a meeting with my manager and my local HR rep, and outfit them with a presentation that they'll then present to my entire team.
What worked for me is trying not to borrow trouble from tomorrow and only thinking about what the NEXT step is when I was actually at the point of needing to take it. Talking to your LGBT focal was a big frikkin' deal. Congratulations!I know I'm going to need to be out to my team if I want to transition, but the thought of having everyone in a room discussing my transition is absolutely terrifying. I don't need to be there for it if I don't want to be (and I don't), but that prospect alone has me wanting to run back into the same closet I've been rationalizing my way into for over a decade.
Well, now you're IN one of Logicgate's rad as hell posts.Gravenstein wrote: ↑Mon Mar 10, 2014 5:04 amThis is gonna probably get lost in all of Logicgate's rad as hell posts, but: I came out as bi to my sisters tonight and they were totally supportive
This pretty well lines up with my experience The impossible becomes "what I did yesterday" really quicklyShieldedDiamond wrote: ↑Mon Mar 10, 2014 4:02 pmYeah, I set my icon to what it is because (aside from finding it to be a good icon) it is how I personally feel myself, internally. About nearly everything. But I remembered how nervous I was to paint my nails, and how I didn't want to, but when I did, I loved it, and now I actually feel uncomfortable not having them painted. So I figured despite still being scared to do this, I figured it would be best for what my interests are after. I see it like getting a shot. You don't want to get the shot from the doctor, when he has the needle in his hand you want to go, and when it's done, everything finishes up quickly and you realize it wasn't so bad. So I'm experimenting a bit and pushing myself really hard, but that's what I feel is going to happen to me.
As for you, I'm 110% certain, as Cthulhu said, everything is going to be certainly fine. And regardless of what people say, why should anyone else prevent you from being who you are? No matter what happens, all of us here would still be for you.
To have a 0% success rate, wouldn't you need to misgender yourself?
Surgery itself is about 6 hours and she'll be doped up until the next day at least. She stopped in IRC before going under. I think it should just be starting now, actually, not finishing.
Booooooooooo.
Best pun, 10/10, and I mean that sincerely.
I went to one tonight... it was kinda terrifying but I made it through.