The content of the statement itself isn't that important, if you'll allow me to get abstract for a bit. The mannerisms, the fashions, the style, etc. - the specifics might as well be irrelevant. What's important is that it's a group activity, and by expressing it, you can signal to people what you want them to see when they meet you. It's not like you're contractually obligated to squeeze your hairy chest into a sequined dress and wear a Van Dyke made of silver glitter (that guy was cool - my roommate favored a feather boa). But showing appreciation for or using the style works as a message about yourself, telling the world the kind of things you like.
It's like... You don't like sports much, but you love getting together with your friends and watching the Super Bowl and having nachos and making lewd cracks about wardrobe malfunctions. That's a very "manly," traditional machismo thing to do, and it's fun. It's fun, and you get to express yourself at the same time.
Same thing.
I knew one guy at school who specifically tried to subvert standard combinations of gender norms. He did a very good job of being fairly baffling. A very professional and skilled student who also ran a progressive-experimental band, spoke with Camp stylings, used very masculine body language except when he crossed his legs, and topped everything off with an enormous mane of hippie-hair and a huge mountain man beard.
One of the most straightforward-but-odd-feeling conversations I ever had was doing that when the person saying "That's gay" was a lesbian. And no, she wasn't being cute or ironic. She just gave no shits.Octavia wrote:When someone around me is being casually homophobic, like saying "that's gay" to mean something is stupid or annoying, I will ask them point blank, "why is that gay?" Nine times out of ten, they will immediately start backpedaling. It's a way to make them think twice when choosing their words the next time without going on a big rant or publicly humiliating them.
I think the only thing that came out of it was that I signed up for a linguistics course the very next semester